Single and NOT Satisfied

I would like to share with you a true story. I attended my first “single’s conference” about eight years ago. I was really excited! I’d recently become acquainted with one of Atlanta’s “mega churches”. There was so much hype about this single’s conference and ALL singles were encouraged to attend. The theme of the conference was, “Single and Satisfied” hahahaha!!!

The first day of the conference, I walked into the cathedral that sits over 10,000 people and about 1/4th of the seats were occupied. All singles strutted in wearing their best outfits. The air was filled with a buzz of excitement. We are single and satisfied! At least this is what they wanted us to believe. Hmmmm

I am enthralled in the moment and highly anticipate what is to come. I’ve been hearing about this conference for weeks and now this moment has arrived. The first to speak is the pastor of this 25,000 plus congregation, whom happens to be married for nearly 20yrs, however he proclaimed all in attendance should be satisfied with being single…hmmm.

I have to admit I was having an internal conflict; mind vs. spirit. My mind was saying, “Single and Satisfied”, but my spirit was saying, “Yeah, I don’t agree with that.”

Well, I’m here now and the hype is in the air. Every time a speaker would proclaim, “Single and Satisfied!!!!” the attendees would stand to their feet with shouts and applauds, but I would just sit there somewhat bewildered. Then I began to question myself, “Why are we here?” The fact of the matter still holds that I was truly single, but not sure that I was satisfied.

Oh this did it for me! There was a panel of very successful, beautiful, and of course single women. I’m talking attorneys, authors, governmental officials, pastors, models these women were on top of their game, at least when it came to their careers. Each time one of these very successful women spoke of how they were satisfied with their house, car, career, and raising children alone; it made me feel sad. It made me feel hopeless. It confirmed my feelings that I am Single and NOT Satisfied.

I felt sad for these women because God never intended for woman to walk alone. And because they have given up on hope of having a spouse they want others to buy into their fallacy of being single and satisfied. I am an executive professional single woman and understand how singleness can befall upon one. I continue to matriculate in the course of my singleness, but I am not satisfied.

I(the woman) was created to be a helpmeet/helpmate>>wife. Innately God has given me(the woman) a nurturing spirit and the canon of influence to help my husband to rule and subdue his dominion. I came under the sub junction of the head(Adam>>the husband). I was not originally designed to be the head of my household or to carry both roles of mother and father. I am Single and NOT Satisfied.


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Latrina is a Christian Empowerment Life Coach, Author, Professional Speaker, and founder of Speaking Above Mediocrity Empowerment Consulting Firm based in Atlanta, GA. All interested in having Latrina as your Christian Empowerment Coach or your Keynote Speaker you may contact her at coachmeSAM@ymail.com

Latrina speaks at churches, meetings, conferences, conventions, and for various club organizations.


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